Whether ‘tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of a marriage without knowing anything about your hubby or to the heart against living together for some time so see where it goes. Both of them seem valid questions. In this moving-in vs. marriage Mexican stand-off who will be the winner and who will be the loser?
Is there any true difference between marrying off the person you love or moving in with him or her? This is the question that’s been puzzling us for too long. Some of us would rather think that marriage is the crowning achievement of any relationship. Thus, we tend to regard the “moving-in” aspect as a sort of fire baptism, to see whether to you are meant to live together or not.
According to a couple of statistics drafted by the Council and Contemporary Families, it would seem that approximately 75 percent of the couples married during 2010 have been living together for more than two years. And to top it all up, there comes a study which argues that there is no notable difference between marriage and cohabiting when it comes to emotional distress.
The study gathered data from the NLSY, a survey institution which was founded in 1997. The survey gathered data in young people, more specifically on those who were born in the first years of the ’80. The group of researchers that posted this paper took into account over 8700 cases in order to formulate their working hypothesis.
The result has shown that there are no consistent differences between getting married and moving in when it comes to emotional distress. The paper proved that both transitions are capable of reducing emotional stress. In order to get their bearings right, the examiners asked the candidates to fill in a questionnaire. The survey was aimed at assessing their emotional status.
They were asked to ascertain their level of emotional distress using a scale-like survey. Hence, the participants had a 1 to 4 for scale, representing their levels of emotional distress, one signifying that they were unhappy all the time, whilst four meant that they had no emotional distress issues.
The results of the study underlined certain rather obscure facts about the whole moving-in vs marriage Mexican stand-off. It would seem that the levels of emotional distress in a lonely woman will go down quite a bit once she’s decided to move in with a romantic partner. Furthermore, both married and cohabiting couples reported the same decreases in emotional distress when they had their first child.