While transitioning from one gender to another is regarded as a bold, life-changing move, having a baby during the process applied even more stress on 20-year-old Hayden Cross who is now a 16-weeks pregnant expecting father.
On Sunday, January 8th, Hayden shared his story with the world via an exclusive interview with The Sun news agency. He told the reporters that he was planning to have a child, however not before turning 25. Nevertheless, he was forced into his decision since the NHS refused to freeze his eggs. The panel refuted the almost $5,000 process, forcing Hayden Cross to take a break from his male hormone treatment and get pregnant before undergoing permanent surgery.
According to his story, he got a sperm donation from an individual he met on a Facebook group, which has been since shut down. Hayden told reporters he resorted to social media since he could not afford a proper clinic. Nevertheless, the transgender young adult managed to get pregnant on the first try.
However, Hayden Cross says even though he is extremely happy about the prospect of having a biological child, he experienced mixed emotions when he first learned about the pregnancy. The reason is rather simple: the physical stress and changes going on in his body because of his pregnancy contradicts everything he thinks of himself.
“It is a very female thing to carry a baby and it goes against everything I feel in my body”, said Hayden Cross during the interview.
He added that because the NHS refused to freeze his eggs, allowing him to have the baby when he was older, he now has to stop the male hormone treatment which stalls his transition. Initially, Hayden was planning to complete the transition process, find his soulmate and use a surrogate mother to carry his eggs. Now, he is left with having to deal with the delivery and providing for his child before resuming his transition. Moreover, the young adult is currently living in a council bedsit after leaving home at the age of 15. Nevertheless, Hayden Cross is planning to apply for a larger living space and hopes to find a job and consequently save enough money to put his child through school.
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