A brand new study has concluded that in order to improve the sex life in a marriage the child care responsibilities should be shared equally by the parents.
Parental tasks like changing the baby’s diapers, teaching him how to walk, or reading him bed time stories are just some of the activities that the couple has to share in order for the family to interact in a balanced and healthy manner.
For every couple that has reached the family phase all these tasks have to be divided by 40%-60% between the husband and the wife, and when possible 50%-50% in order for the quality of the relationship and their sex lives to improve.
Older studies already proved that there is less arguing and fighting in egalitarian relationships than in the cases where the female partner is doing most of the chores and all of the child responsibilities, whereas the male partner is responsible for supplying the family with money. The sociologist Don Carlson adds that the quality of sex in this kind of families is considerably better compared to that we find in traditional, patriarchal couples.
The author also emphasized that the contrast between these two types of families are rather extreme and that if you take a closer look at the couples that share their chores equally, factors such as the overall satisfaction in the relationship, quality of sex and the frequency of conflicts are far more favorable for both parties than to how they are in traditional arrangements.
In the few cases where the women are responsible for bringing home the money and the men with dealing with the house chores and looking after the children the situation is just as troublesome as it is in traditional couples. However, albeit both the female and male partner were content about the quality of sex, men were not satisfied with the frequency of sex.
Carlson stated that gender equality is the main ingredient to keep a relationship going and that an unfair distribution of time between the husband and the wife is the main cause of divorce in our era. The study has reshaped the preconceptions of some older studies and theories that had concluded traditional couples are more functional than egalitarian couples.
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